Without a conscious life-purpose a man is totally lost, drifting, adapting to events rather than creating events. Without knowing his life-purpose a man lives a weakened, impotent existing, perhaps eventually becoming sexually impotent, or prone to mechanical and disinterested sex.
The core of your life is your purpose. Everything in your life, from your diet to your career, must be aligned with your purpose if you are to act with coherence and integrity in the world. if you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret to success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.
Now I’ve written in mans perspective, but the same applies to women as well. Men are often seen as muscular and the feminine going through the feelings in life. With regards to that any of us is responsible for their own life, period. Stop wasting blame-time on others. Look at what you got right now. Your external reality is often a mirror of your internal self. Start with something.
The elevator to success is broken, so take the stairs.