Inspired by David Deida, The way of the superior man
The masculine loves a good challenge, whereas the feminine grows by praise. A man must be unabashed an expressed in his appreciation for his woman. Praise her freely.
Think about it. Boys may challenge other boys to do something daring. Guys grow by challenges. Same with any sports for instance. It’s a masculine trait to own the opposing team via scoring the highest points. Someone with a feminine aspect, usually woman, want nothing but to be loved, have fun, feel appreciated. They are the flowers in your garden that the masculine person must water from time to time. You don’t want to weed your garden due to a crap relationship with your woman or the world.
Guys analyse their situation and are problem solvers. You might have a troublesome boss and you decide to finally step up to him and tell what’s on your mind. Decision making comes from masculinity. What I’ve learned is that you are responsible for anything. Your thoughts and actions are in your own responsive control, anything external is the other response. Two responses are constantly presence. If you manage to distinct external from the internal, simply by saying “it’s fine, none of my concern”, you can free yourself from unnecessary external responses you have no control of.
Masculine people need to realize that analyzing the feminine is the same as trying to control someone or something external, which is not in YOUR control. Tell your woman “you’re so beautiful when you smile”, or “I love the shape of your body.” Praise her daily, and often. Appreciate the lifetime spend together, whether it’s your woman, your job, or anything.