Fight or Flight? The Solution: Burn the Boats (2 min read)

Try exploring the subconscious mind. Notice it isn’t any different than that of our primal ancestors around 10.000 B.C. The only change is in our society.

Your subconscious mind is a survival mechanism. Signalling us when to eat, pee or sleep, the subconscious all take care of that. We learn that the touch of a flame burns and hurts. If we see others in pain, we mirror their reflection onto our self to “not touch, not fight (thus Flighting). It’s core purpose resolves around Fighting or Flighting.

Imagine living around 10.000 B.C. A wild sabretooth tiger approaches. Whilst you see the sharp claws, long teeth and it’s hungry eyes, your body freezes in the moment. Adrenaline kicks in. You know fist fighting the cat is suicide. Luckily you know running is The Only Option, so you find a place to stay out of it’s reach till it leaves.

NOW! BACK TO OUR WORLD.

Your fears are sabretooth sized boogiemen. 90% of all times we miss plentiful opportunities in life. Such a waste NEVER doing the things you love, leaving regret behind which is worse than a sabretooth kitty.

Our Flight option is overused. Which is Okay! If you’re reading this, your choices didn’t kill you 😛 Sounds dramatic huh.. Guess in today’s society “kill” means never lived to your full potential.

Fight More! Leave no Escape option behind, Burn the Boats. Go for gold. It’s hard, so is life! The easy way is escaping whether you’re addicted on something or procrastinating, escape is all the same. Eat or be eaten. We cannot always escape our problems. Captain Ahab hunted Moby Dick eradicating peoples worst nightmare. Spartan children abandoned home at early age surviving the hash nature till they were 16yrs old. When they returned, and only “If” they returned alive, these young men became warriors.

“You Need a Commitment Strategy, NOT an Exit Strategy.”

Cheerios,

Stephan

Book Review: the War of Art, by Steven Pressfield. (5 min read)

war of art

“It’s not the writing part that’s hard. What’s hard is sitting down to write.”

In The War of Art Steven Pressfield tackles our greatest demon. That thing called RESISTANCE.

Resistance is a bully! You’re familiar with some form of resistance. Let me start with 10 greatest hits where resistance occurs:

  1. A pursuit of any calling.
  2. The lounging of a product or your business / work.
  3. Any diet or health regimen.
  4. Any program / tool for spiritual advancement.
  5. Any activity whose aim are tighter abdominal.
  6. Any course or program designed to overcome an unworthy habit.
  7. Any education
  8. The decision to change for the better
  9. The aim to help others
  10. Any act that entails commitment to the heart: Pets, relationship(s), parenting.

Get the picture? A simple diagram I made up might clear things up:

resistance

Your potentials lies beyond resistance. I’ll lay out the symptoms in which you can recognize resistance at play.

RESISTANCE: 1. is negative 2.aims to kill 3. is impersonal 4. is a repelling force 5. invisible 5 drama-queen 6.  loves life troubles 7. the devils lawyer on your shoulder 8. victimizes 9. it’s aggressive 10. it’s FUELED BY FEAR 11. always points NORTH (Meaning: face it head on!) 12. never sleeps 13. can’t be reasoned with 14. procrastinates 15. it’s universal: we are not alone dealing with resistance. 16. recruits allies: your closed friends/family/lover dislikes your new behavior and fight against it.

How does it feel?

FEELS LIKE HELL! The stages of resistance are as followed:

  1. bored, unhappy, no satisfaction, restless, unloved or unloving, feeling guilty of not knowing what to do.
  2. web surfing, over-eating, gaming, watching tv all day, masturbating, gossiping, texting.
  3. depression, aggression, dysfunction, victimized.

Resistance is FUELED BY FEAR and always POINTS NORTH like a compass. 

“The more scared we are  The more certain we can be that WE HAVE TO DO IT!

(For example: approaching a hot girl/guy for a normal chatter. Or skydiving. Or telling that “special” person that you love him/her. etc.) Steven Pressfield said his life can be devided in two parts: before and after turning pro.

Resistance’s remedy: 

TURN PRO!

Not a professional as a doctor or a carpenter. A professional as an ideal. An ideal that DESPISES RESISTANCE. An amateur plays for fun, a pro plays for keeps. An amateur is a weekend warrior, a pro commits full-time on the case. An amateur makes excuses, a pro doesn’t take shít personal. The pro loves it so much he dedicates his life to it. Resistance hates it when we turn pro. A pro doesn’t think about it too much, cause that would lead to procrastinating into thinking not to procrastinate 😛

Lance Armstrong had cancer and won the Tour de France three years and counting. An amateur believes he must first overcome his fear; then he can do his work. The pro knows that fear can never be overcome. He knows there isn’t such a thing called a fearless warrior. Henry Fonda puked into the toilet in his dressing room before getting on stage. He is still terrified but he forces himself forward in spite of his terror. He knows that once he gets out into the action, his fear will recede and he’ll be okay.

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What will you do: Wait with future regrets on a life that never happens or THROW UP and ACT?

Be miserable, love it! A pro will be dining for the duration on a diet of isolation, rejection, self-doubt, despair, ridicule, contempt and humiliation = external reflections of internal resistance.

The pro’s aim: Take what the day throws at him/her. He/she is prepared! (for example: packing your schoolbag the night before you sleep cuts unnecessary stress whenever you need to hurry. If that happens to be a habit of yours :P)

The pro’s goal: Handle himself/herself, his/her insides, as sturdily and steadily as he/she can.

Don’t wait! Or resistance gets the best of you already. Turn pro this instant!

Cheerios,

Stephan

Welcome!

Welcome inside this rabbit-hole! I am very stoked to launch my own blog. Starting this with zero expectations. Kinda with any approach in life. We’ll see where the wind carries this boat on water. I love connecting and sharing to what I think is valuable information hoping we can all benefit from this lion’s share. If you like it already and I am, that would be awesome. Don’t shy away just ask me anything or simply say Hi.

As a quick summary to what you may expect on this blog. Basically the things we all face in live. Psychology, spiritual and philosophy matters are my main topics . Making the best out of life whilst also stripping away all I know and honestly be truthful to the core Being, or the what is.. Doesn’t have a name, but I am sure you’re familiar with the “I am”. If so, GOOD! Then we have stuff in common already. If not, well… simply say Hi!

Cheerios guys,

Stephan